10 things you should never do to your children

 

1. Rebuking your child in public places.

Rebuking your child in public places intentionally or unintentionally has been a major mistake done by parents. Always try to be specific and assertive, not vague and passive. When in a mall your child is throwing tantrums for buying a pair of scissors, don’t ask, “Why did you take those scissors? Can’t you be nice?” Do say, “Give me the scissors. These are too sharp. They could cut you. I will get you a plastic pair.”

2. Rarely spending quality time with them.

It is important for parents to spend quality time with their children. In this fast-paced world, we have to make space for our kids and assure them that we care about them and will always be there as pillars of support. They need our love, kindness, and strength so that they feel secure and confident with themselves. Take time to enjoy your children. Roll around with them, play with them, and laugh with them.

3. Always pointing out the mistakes.

Yes as a parent we should always let them know when they are right when they are wrong. But pointing out mistakes only would affect your child’s mental growth. Always try to appreciate whenever they do something good and right, this will boost their spirits.

4. Being overly permissive.

Instead of hovering over their children’s every move, permissive parents are incredibly lax and rarely make or enforce any type of rules or structure. Their motto is often simply that “kids will be kids.” Though they are usually warm and loving, they make little or no attempt to control or discipline their kids.

5. Always defending your children’s mistakes.

Not rebuking your child in public places and always defending your children’s mistakes are two things. Most parents misunderstand making these two things as one. Whenever your child is being disobedient, misbehaving, ill-treating others, as a parent we should never defend them but discipline them and teach them the difference between right and wrong.

6. Being overprotective.

The so-called “helicopter parent” is nothing but being an overprotective parent and always hovering over your children. Parents who pay extremely close attention to a child’s or children’s experiences and problems, particularly at educational institutions. They are always in the lookout for guidance, and when left alone, they become too nervous to make a decision.

7. Not giving enough space for decision making.

Some children have a tough time when they move out of their parent’s homes. The only reason is helicopter parenting. Here the parents choose their school, their colleges, the field they want to study, the dresses they want to buy, even the man/woman they want to marry. Every child should have their decision making power at a young age so that later on they don’t fall in a dilemma while taking up any step.

8. Being abusive to your children.

Children who experience parental abuse or neglect are more likely to show negative outcomes that carry forward into adult life, with ongoing problems with emotional regulation, self-concept, social skills, and academic motivation, as well as serious learning and adjustment problems.

9. Not appreciating or boosting them when needed.

Lack of appreciation can directly create a complex in children. Scientists say that by the age of 8 a child learns more than 60% of what they will learn in their entire life.

10. Fighting among ourselves in the presence of your children.

As a parent, we should always maintain decorum not to abuse each other in front of our children. We should always try to handle any situation in a proper and sensible way. Our children always imitate whatever they see around them. So we should always try to have a good relationship with our spouse and our child.